Friday, January 15, 2016

30 Life Lessons

Well hello there! It’s been a little long while. I know, I know—I have been slacking a bit on the blogging. Life’s been crazy! It’s been over a year and a lot has changed. And I mean, a LOT. I’ve been doing less documenting of life via blogging, and just more…living. Weird, huh? For one thing, I just got back from VACATION in the Caribbean, and it was amazeballs. Also, I am no longer in my twenties—I became a thirty year old on October 30th! That being said, I thought I would share my top 30 life lessons (in no particular order). The wisdom I am about to impart to you is all things I have learned through experience in some way, some are practical, some are weird like me, so I hope you enjoy them!

                                                    
  1. Moisturize, moisturize, moisturize. When people ask me why I look like I am barely 21 (I get carded everywhere), I am always ready with my classic line, “I moisturize.” But SERIOUSLY, it’s true! I have been religious about it since the 8th grade, when I learned about skincare in modeling school. I stay out of the sun (unless I have SPF 30 or higher on), I don’t go tanning, I don’t smoke, I drink lots of water, and these are all things that keep me looking young.
  2. Don’t go to bed mad. My mom always used to say this to my siblings and I, and it’s true. For one thing, it’s really hard to sleep when you are mad. But life is too short to go to bed feeling mad. What if you woke up and didn’t have the chance to apologize, or worse, you DIDN’T WAKE UP AT ALL.
  3.  Incorporate what you love into your daily life. You love The Walking Dead? Hang up a TWD calendar at work. Love your family and friends? Hang up some pics where you can see them. That way, when you need a little pick-me-up, you are surrounded by them!
  4. Laugh. A lot. I will admit that I laugh about the most random, silly shiggen. My partner makes me laugh every day. I’m weird, and I laugh at weird stuff, but it’s a muscle I work out every day! And (I don’t care how old I get) laughing at farts is something I will never, ever outgrow.
  5. Choose happiness. When you wake up in the morning, and stuff isn’t going your way—you are late, you’re all out of milk, you have a flat tire, whatever—keep in mind that you can CHOOSE to make the best of the situation. Happiness is a choice you make moment to moment, day by day. The more you can see the bright side, the happier you will be.
  6. Indulge! Just buy the thing that is out of your price range if it will make you happy. I dropped some serious dough on a Sleep Number bed this past year, and though it wasn’t easy to part with the cash, it was SO entirely worth it. I thought, well I sometimes have back pain, and I spend ½ my life in bed anyways, so might as well be in extreme comfort. I sleep better, and better yet—my bed has “underbody lighting” so that I don’t disturb my partner in the middle of the night, it is adjustable (raises up and down), it has massage settings, and it’s basically just amazing. I was kicking myself thinking, why didn’t I do this sooner?
  7. Give the gift of your time. Whether you volunteer, take a friend out to lunch, or just listen on the phone, your time is the most valuable thing you can give to someone. Spend it wisely, because in our busy lives, we can only give so much (without burning out). And not everyone deserves your time either!
  8. Remove the negative people from your life. I don’t just mean people with a negative attitude, but those who attract drama to themselves all the time, or have wronged you—perhaps more than once. You don’t need that drama in your life—those happiness suckers. I’m not saying you need to hire someone to kill them, but if they are an emotional drain, or piss you off when you talk to them, then just don’t waste your time or energy on them. Eventually, if they are smart, they will get the hint. Well, hopefully, anyway!
  9. Be open-minded. Try new things. I used to HATE country music. I don’t even really know why, because my grandparents loved it. Well, I liked a few select songs, but when I started listening it on the regular (reggo, as I like to call it), I realized it wasn’t actually all that bad. There is something to be said for not knocking something until you have tried it. Or maybe just enough exposure will make you like it!
  10. Don’t always say yes; don’t always say no. There’s a good balance to maintain your commitments. I have learned if I say yes to everything, I burn out. It’s a bummer to miss some things, but you have to retain your sanity.
  11. Make time for YOU. In this busy world, make time for some alone time. For me, it is going to the gym, getting a facial, pondering life on my work commute without distractions. Self-reflection is important!
  12. Don’t dwell on the past. Use it to learn and move on with your life. If you think always about your regrets or the way things “might have been,” you are depriving yourself of the good things you have in front of you right now. You can’t change the way things were, but you can change the way they will be. You have your whole life ahead of you, and many chapters to write.
  13. Listen to your gut. If you feel a certain kind of way about something, but you can’t really explain it, chances are there is some truth to it. Don’t ignore those gut feelings you have, because they turn out to be right so many times.
  14. Be kind to all. I cannot stress this enough, whether it is the CEO of a company or your waitress. You don’t know the struggles they have been through, and just because someone may not have the most glamorous of jobs, that doesn’t mean you should treat them as less of a human being. Also, before you react out of anger—stop and think about what you are about to say. People will remember your hurtful words, sometimes as long as they live, so don’t say something you might later regret.
  15. Don’t sweat the small stuff. I have this earring tree that holds like 100 pairs of earrings. It got knocked over accidentally by my partner, and earrings and earring backs were literally everywhere—all over the room. Some of the earrings even got broken. But rather than flipping out about the time it would take to re-organize it, or the huge mess or the broken earrings, I took a deep breath, and just cleaned it up. Because you know what? It wasn’t worth the energy to get angry, especially over something that was an accident! And he apologized and helped me locate the earrings. We bonded over me talking about my favorite ones, or where they came from. They were all cheap ones anyways. It’s just stuff!
  16. Take care of yourself. I mean eat healthier, get a little exercise in however you can. Walk. Dance. Move. I started going to the gym about 3 years ago, and wish I would have done it sooner, honestly. It’s hard to get started, but I sleep better at night, have more energy, am more aware of what I eat, I feel stronger, I like the way my body looks, and it’s a bonding experience with my partner, when we can go to the gym together. Don’t get me wrong, I love beer and wine and don’t plan on giving those up anytime soon, but just moderation, as with anything. You only get one health, so don’t throw it away. (I still hate cardio and probably will forever!)
  17. Save some money. Again, something I wish I would have started doing much sooner. Saving money is good for emergency situations. They say you should have about 3 months of your earning put away, but I think it should be wayyyy more than that. You never know what could happen! And I use some of the saved money on fun stuff, but I always replace it. It takes time to build it up, but the cushion is good to have!
  18. Pay your bills first, THEN have fun with what is left over. Unless you want to end up living at your mom’s house when you are 40. I know it sounds cliché, but be responsible with and about your money. After all, Mom isn’t going to be around forever to take care of your broke @$$.
  19.  Learn about another culture. Learn another language. Travel. See the world. It opens your mind and your heart so much. It allows you to experience life from a different perspective and more readily accept the differences of others. Overall, it makes you a more well-rounded and cultured individual.
  20. Don’t be afraid to fail. So many people are afraid of failure. It sucks. It hurts. It costs. But honestly, it teaches you so much. You come out stronger, wiser, and more humbled. Everyone needs a reality check once in a while. I don’t think there is such thing as a life fail. You can always find things to be grateful for.
  21. Tell the people in your life that matter that you love them, and tell and show them often. I wish I had said it more to my grandparents when they were alive. I would give anything to be able to get off work, go pick up my grandmother, and just drive around or go out to eat. Our time on this planet is so short, and life gets so busy that the time just flies and flies. Don’t become too busy to let someone know that you are thinking about them or that you care. A good friend of mine said to me recently that he remembered how I send actual mail to let friends know that I care about them. It’s true—call me old-fashioned, but snail mail is where it’s at. Plus who doesn’t love getting mail?
  22. Be generous. Hint: you don’t need to be rich to do this. Be generous with your time, your love, your happiness. It’s a good feeling to give to others in whatever way you can, and see them smile and brighten their day. Who wants to hang around selfish people who only care about numero uno? Or spend all of their time and money on themselves? Those are the people who end up alone and unhappy in life, full of regret.
  23. Give a crap about something. Have convictions, have beliefs, in whatever that may be! Don’t just agree with what everyone else says and go with the flow like a brain-washed cotton-headed ninnymuggins. Stand up for what you think in your heart is right, even if your voice is singular or unpopular.
  24. Don’t worry about what other people think about you. I have made my peace with this, and let me tell you—it has not been easy or fun. Everything you say, everything you do is going to be judged by other people who don’t even have the faintest idea about who you are. So let those haters keep on creeping on your social media, trying to piece together a you that they’ve built up in their own mind. Don’t worry your pretty little head about them. They’re just jealous and insecure about their own lives.
  25. Be a good communicator. I cannot stress this one enough, especially being a communication major. Listen well—that means putting your mobile device down and making eye contact with the person you are talking to. Let them know you care by being engaged, and acknowledge what they are saying—even if you don’t agree with it. When problems arise in your relationships, talk them out. Don’t play games—talk about how you feel and why. Don’t make someone guess that you are mad at them. And if there is ambiguity about things, clear it up, explain yourself.
  26. Be you. Stay true to yourself. If the friends you are hanging around or the person you are romantically involved with doesn’t like you for who you are, in all seriousness, they can go—there’s the door, don’t let it hit you on the booty on your way out. Don’t let anyone change who you are so that they can be happy. Don’t ever lose the things that make you who you are—those things that make you a weirdo. After all, nobody is a better you than you. And there is someone out there who thinks you are perfect just the way you are. Remember, a lion doesn’t lose sleep over the opinions of sheep.
  27. Always have something to look forward to. I am a planner, always planning the next get-together, the next vacation, etc. Having stuff to be excited about is always fun, whether it is hanging with a friend, going somewhere, or trying something new.
  28. Never stop learning. I loved school, and even today I love learning new things that I can turn around and teach someone else, which is why being a trainer is such a good fit for me career-wise. Whatever you are interested in, whether it’s architecture, animals, video games, history, food, or zombies…go learn more about it! (I will be one of those 90 year old ladies getting her 4th doctorate). Every person you meet knows something you don’t!
  29. Make a BAMF LinkedIn Profile and keep that shiggen up to date. If you make it REALLY good, then you only need to update it once in a while. Grow your network, make it fun and entertaining, and for goodness sake, do not make it a repeat or regurgitation of your resume. Have a professional pic of just you (no nudity, beer, drugs, costumes, questionable life choices, husbands, wives, children, pets, friends, etc.), use keywords, have a decent summary, and add some skills on there. Get some recommendations from former bosses also (assuming you haven’t burned those bridges). You just never know when your dream job is going to come around knocking. Hey, I got my last few jobs from LinkedIn recruiting, so that’s pretty promising!
  30. Take risks. I’m not saying parachute out of a 350 story building (cuz that’s flippin’ cray) but I mean—if you get a great job offer at another company, or you want to travel the world while you are young—just do it! There are some regrets I have of not doing things, and I would rather have taken the risk and had the experience!
You made it to the end! Wow, you are a trooper--thanks for reading! That’s all I have for now…and the list will continue to grow. Any others you would add? J

Friday, December 19, 2014

Gift Giving Guide


I can haz dis?
Gift giving is really an art, and can be really rewarding. I love giving gifts (because it makes people so surprised and happy). Some people really struggle with ideas of what to get. Have no fear—I am here to help!

I have two words for anyone out there who is struggling with gift giving ideas and is reading this: pay attention. It’s that simple. Know what someone likes (be it a sport, hobby, show, video game, type of clothing, etc. Not sure? Just ask!), and it becomes soooo incredibly easy to buy for them. I also live by the philosophy that if I love it so much, you might love it so much too. At least, that has mostly worked on my friends thus far! Oh, and don’t forget those gift receipts!

*Get crafty. A homemade gift is always from the heart, and there are so many things you can make (just take a gander on Pinterest for TONS of ideas!) In the past I have made a memory jar, glass etched mugs, mix CDs (and tapes, back in the day) and Russian tea. Also, instead of one big expensive gift, get a few little meaningful ones. And finally, take the time to write out a nice message in a Christmas card. Like, who seriously does that anymore (besides me)? Hell, even attach post-it notes to gifts to make it extra fun (especially when sending to long-distance friends and family to give them explanations).

*Go unique. I am all about buying things that people can’t just get anywhere—personalized or just hard to find. Like traveling to another country and grabbing some souvenirs, and hanging on to them until Christmas!

*Food is always good, but be mindful of allergies. I would never buy orange juice for my friend Kelly, for example, because that would kill him, and that’s not really the message I want to send (especially at Christmas time). Oh and fruitcake—don’t do it. Just...no.  Candy is good though—chocolate especially. And there is definitely no shortage of that around the holidays!!!

*If you are going to buy someone underwear, don’t do it unless either you are either related and it’s a necessity or you are romantically linked. I mean, how would you feel if a casual acquaintance or co-worker bought you a thong? (Think Buddy the Elf and that sexy teddy he got for his dad—HA!)

*Go practical. Some people really need things. As an example, every single year, my mom always wishes for a kitchen timer, measuring cups, and slippers. She goes through these like crazy somehow. There’s also the gifts that you think someone might need also (like hint, hint kind of a thing). Have a friend who is always late? Get them a watch. Or a boyfriend who never remembers a birthday? Birthday calendar, FTW (and write in all his family member’s birthdays on it).

*Clothes are generally safe, but sizing might be tough. Also, only buy if you know it’s their unique style or something they really dig. Always get a gift receipt! Socks and winter gear like hats, gloves, and scarves are a no-brainer.

*Be wise, accessorize: You can never buy enough bling! It doesn’t even have to be pricey to look cute. I buy 90% of my baubles from Tar-jay (Target). Fashion scarves, purses, wallets, backpacks, etc. require no sizing, so go bananas!

*Gift cards are pretty safe and universal, if you don’t have time to shop or don’t know someone well enough to get them a more personal gift.  Secret Santa, anyone?

*Perfumes, colognes, and body sprays and body washes are great gifts, but be careful. You may unintentionally send someone the wrong message (that they are stinky). So, unless that is your intention, just proceed with caution. Some people (like myself) are also very picky about the scents they will or will not wear.

*Have some feels and go sentimental. I LOVE anything from UW-La Crosse, as that’s where I went for undergrad. Get me UW-L gear or ANYTHING alumni and I will love it. Pictures are good too for friends, and family. Print a good one out, buy a nice frame, and boom—instant keepsake.

*Alcohol: good for the bestie, not so much for the boss.

*Gag gifts are fun, but make sure they aren’t too offensive. Avoid religious and politically themed gifts, if at all possible. I bought the oldest co-worker I have a funny picture book called All My Friends Are Dead. He loved it, and thought it was hilarious.

I am a BIG online shopper, but that only really works out if you have time to ship things. Here are some of my favorite websites to buy nifty giftys:
Everything: Urbanoutfitters.com, Amazon.com
Artsy Crafty: Etsy.com
Beauty: Sephora.com, Birchbox.com
Décor: Westelm.com
Clothes: Anthropologie.com
Shoes: Zappos.com
Nerd: Thinkgeek.com
Tea: Davidstea.com
Fave in-store shopping: Target, Kohl’s, Barnes and Noble, Best Buy

So now that you’ve got the gift part down, time to wrap. Hate wrapping? Enlist a friend to help or take your gifts to a wrapping station in a department store (or Barnes and Noble!) Or get a gift bag and tissue paper. No wrapping paper? Get creative and use a paper grocery bag or newspaper for wrapping paper (especially the comics section). Bonne chance, mes amis!

Sunday, August 10, 2014

Beer Hair Masque

I have heard that beer is good for your hair, and I remember reading back in the day (haha) that pouring a can of beer on your hair and letting it sit can do it some good and make it shiny. This masque was virtually the same as that, with an addition of an egg yolk. I admit, it's a bit of a weird, gross combo--but if you can get past that--it really works! I found this recipe on the Internet randomly.

Ingredients:
-1 egg yolk
-1 3/4 or 1/2 can beer (I used Miller High Life--which was left over from my beer cheese dip recipe!)


1. Mix the yolk and beer together. Silly me, I poured the yolk right into the can and then shook it up. Naturally, it exploded all over my pants and I smelled like a drunk, just in time for work. Umm...yeah. Don't do that. LOL! Save this for the weekend when you have nowhere to go!

2. Pour the mixture all over your hair, and wrap it up in a shower cap or towel. Let sit for 30 minutes.


3. Rinse your hair with warm water until the water runs clear. Shampoo hair as usual, but do not condition.